Should you let your Hair Go Grey? The Pros and Cons….

By Mel - 5 min read
Woman over 40 holding a cup of tea

Societal views have led us to believe, that grey hair is only for the older members of our society. We may think that grey hair is just not sexy and modern and we may not ever question it.

It’s currently 2022 and many of us have been in various degrees of lock down. Hairdresser appointments have been postponed indefinitely. Those pesky roots are coming through faster than we can get to the box dye. But is it really the end of the world though? Should you look at whether to let your hair go grey?

Let’s explore the pros and cons of growing out your silvery locks.

Societal views have led us to believe, that grey hair is only for the older members of our society. We may think that grey hair is just not sexy and modern and we may not ever question it.

However, more and more women are challenging the grey hair stigma! Take a look online, and you will find that grey hair can be beautiful and stylish. Grey hair is just another hair colour.

It’s a fact that as we age our hair will lose pigment. However, many people start losing their hair pigment from a very young age. I started losing mine noticeably in my 20-30’s. My daughter has at least 10 grey hairs on her head and she is 13!!!

Most people will have various degrees of grey hair by their 30’s. But we forget this because most women (and men mind you!) are still dying their hair. With very few role models out there, it’s easy to forget this fact.

What is important to remember is that you do have a choice…you do!!! Just take a look on google, Instagram and Pinterest. You will see for yourself, just how beautiful and stylish and stunning in fact- that grey hair can actually be.

Let’s now look at those pros and cons…..


The Grow Out-
The decision to let your hair grow out has various degrees of difficulty.

You will need to consider how dark your dyed hair is and whether you are happy to let it grow out as it is. The alternative would be to break up the dark colour with highlights and transition without the harsh line.

There may be financial implications. This will be dependant on how many appointments you will need to get your hair to the right shade. Some clever hairdressers can actually get your hair to a similar colour to your natural. Your decision may be dependant on how light your actual grey is. There is no right or is about finding what you think will work for you.

You might not like your natural hair colour.

Most women embrace their natural hair and love it. I love my grey hair and I get compliments on it daily. There is a possibility you won’t. You could always start dying it again if you don’t like it.

Your nearest and dearest may not support your decision….

This is sad but unfortunately true at times. This is difficult, because it’s one decision that you my need a lot of support with. If this is the case, just remember, this is your hair, your decision. Own it! You will prove them wrong! My husband and children were horrified when I told them. My daughter who was 9 at the time, started to cry- eek. But now, four years down the line, they are my biggest advocates. You may have been inspired by other women you have seen with grey hair. Those around you may not have your same vision. Show them some pictures of how you intend to look and style your hair when it has grown out.

Grey Hair isn’t always easy…

Sorry to break this to you guys, but grey hair needs loads of maintenance. Yellowing is just one of the problems I have with my hair and maintaining its brightness. There are now loads of products on the market that can help out, so we are lucky. Targeted blonde hair products can help if you are very light grey. But don’t enter this thinking you won’t need to make an effort. You will and you will probably want to. I now nurture my hair instead of torturing it with excessive heat and toxic hair colouring like the old days.

Now for the Pros…..

Less toxins

Less toxins entering the skin from hair dye equals better hair and skin condition and a healthier body generally!

You may start questioning other habits and choices-

Once we question societal views on life, we may start questioning more and more other choices we are making. This can equal massive self development, which can lead to growth and opportunity.

You have a hair colour that is all your own-

Nobody in the world will have the same hair colour as you. You are unique because you are special, therefore be proud of it. Self Love all the way!!!

Healthy hair

Do not believe for one second that because your hair is grey, it will be coarse. This is not necessarily true. My hair was coarser when I was dying it all the time! My hair is thicker, healthier and stronger than it ever has been. I look after it and I don’t douse it in chemicals any more. I do use heat, but only sparingly. There is no need to give up heat if you don’t want to. Saying that, you may decide to stop heat altogether.

This article could go on and on especially for the pros. I champion all women who make this decision and I am a massive supporter online for those transitioning. Please do reach out and introduce yourself. I would love to meet you on here.

You can always read books about women who have let their hair go grey before us. I recommend the following inspirational reads:

Silver Hair by Lorraine Massey

The Curly Girl Method by Lorraine Massey

Going Grey by Anne Kreamer

These books are all very different but equally insightful.

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Until next time….



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